Fake it until you become it – Amy Cuddy
We have all heard the phrase, “Fake it ’til you make it.” There is something somewhat inspiring about this concept and yet a little disconcerting at the same time.
The downside is that faking it until you make it gives the impression that while we made it we might still be faking it and therefore are still not it.
No one truly wants to be a fake, nor does anyone want to follow a fake. If you haven’t heard of Amy Cuddy, she did a TED Talk back in 2012 talking about how power posing affects testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain.
She talks about many things, but one thing that she spent some time caught my ear. It was this idea of “faking it until you become it” is actually what is occurring rather than “faking it until you make it.”
She explains that when we truly fake it, we begin to think, act, feel, perceive and believe that we really are it. That is the crucial point: we do not actually continue faking it because by truly embracing the illustrious it, we actually do take on all of the things that the it is comprised of. This is pretty incredible to think about and even better to implement. So don’t just wait to feel confident, driven, calm, or prepared; take on the confidence by behaving like a confident person, behave like a driven person, behave like a calm person. Little by little, chemically and mechanically our bodies and minds will take on the attributes we are faking, therefore we should fake it until we become it because we will actually become it.
This is an important concept to train staff members in who are seemingly stagnant or floundering. It is something tangible for them. It requires no extra education. They can literally control how they are perceived by others, by changing how they behave and what they believe about themselves while faking it to become it. Final bonus point- the employee will feel valued because you have shown specific interest in him/her as a person not just an employee.
Simple. Uncomplicated. Confidence building.
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